Let’s begin with manual massage. When not using your fingers, you’ll want a sturdy and reliable toy. This solid metal toy from Romi is pretty good. With and small 1 inch ball on one end to a 1.5 inch size ball at the other, this curved wand can really dig in to the prostate. Even though the toy is advertised as almost 8 inches along the curve, you’ll find only about 5 inches is really insertable. This toy doesn’t require a ton of lube to the incredible slick metal surface. This thing slides in and out really easy. For a treat try warming it up or cooling it down. The only drawback seems to be that when the whole thing is covered with lube, getting a good grip can be sometimes challenging.

The advantage this glass dildo might have other metal wand is grip. At one end you’ll find glass bulbs and at the other end a more slick approach but with small nodules. Either end is easy to keep hold on even if it gets lubed up and trust me, you’re going to want to try each end on your partner. The bulb end acts as a sort of anal bead action when pulled in and out, while the other has a more slick dildo action. Both ends are curved so that with little effort you can get to the walnut sized prostate of your male partner. The glass isn’t as heavy as the metal Romi wand which make it feel more maneuverable and a little easier to twist into place against the prostate. Of course you’ll have to decide whether the thrusting action is better with one over the other.

We call this controlled vibration because your partner can control the Loki with their hand at one end. With some of the other insertables, they may have remotes or buttons, but they may just be a leave and go operation. The Loki has a sturdy handle that will allow your partner to twist and angle the toy to your custom desire. You’ll be able to tease and pump the toy in and out of your ass. As with the other hand held toys on our list, we prefer these toys for structured play, meaning that the focus is on the guy and his prostate. You’re likely not going to be fucking with this toy inside you. You’re going to be on your back or stomach offering your ass to your partner for extended playtime.

Let’s talk about pegging. First, go and read our blog about pegging!! Pegging differs slightly from prostate play but still qualifies as prostate play. We enjoy the Rodeoh brand of harness and dildo (though you can use other dildos with their harness). The harness of Rodeoh is really more like underwear rather than the typical leather harnesses you might have seen. They do make undies that are crotchless for that moment your man has to take control and do some fucking. These kits are soft and comfortable and also come with a cushion of sorts for the flat end of the dildo, should that be an issue. Made originally for lesbians/women/other, this kit is well designed and will make your pegging session orgasmic.

This is a solid silicone prostate toy. A good size, while the base is tapered enough to let your ass hold onto it inside you even during some fucking. You and your partner will have lots of fun getting this inserted and then the real playing can begin. Power through the vibration patterns using the simple push-button on the toy itself, or seize complete control with the free app. This is one of those insert and leave toys freeing you up for penis play from your partner or full on fucking with the toy inside. 12 intensity levels and fully waterproof and USB rechargeable. Be sure to check out our Favorite Toys article for more ideas.

If you’re still looking for the prostate play to make you cum, here it is. Electro-shock! Kidding, sort of. The EM60 Flick is electrosex play with 24 different intensity levels. We’re focusing on the prostate toy which you’ll connect to the multipack. You’ll insert the device being sure to lather on a little conductivity gel. Then slowly, very slowly ramp up the pulsations. This direct stimulation is far more effective than vibrations, not as pleasurable for everybody, but given the right amount of time it will make your body cum whether you’re ready or not. Once you have the control unit, you can buy other accessories for deeper or different electro-stimulation.

Of course we suggest you do your own research on prostate play, as it can be a different experience for everyone. You have to find what works best for you. However there are a couple of basic goals. The walnut sized gland called the prostate is going to need some attention, whether that is prolonged massage with a finger/wand device or vibrator that’s manually controlled or hands-free. Another part of the process is the insertion itself, which for many is just as pleasurable. The anus has a lot of nerve endings and both types of stimulation can be orgasmic. Don’t feel bad if you don’t reach orgasm the first try out, there is a lot of new stuff happening and practice will be required.