Orgasm Simultaneously With Your Partner; Best Orgasm of Your Life

Though it is rare, it is most assuredly achievable. You will hear it referred to by many as the “holy grail” of orgasms. A woman’s orgasm can be achieved in many different ways. It can be through clitoris stimulation, penetration and stimulation of the G-spot, or even nipple stimulation or sensory stimulation, etc. For a man, orgasm can be reached through the frenulum, through the perineum, or the stimulation of the prostate gland, etc. Having that general knowledge helps when trying to learn your partners mode of climax. Aside from general knowledge of what makes men and women orgasm, there is also a learned and experienced knowledge specific to a person on what makes them orgasm individually. Although male and female genitalia and sexual stimulation are so different, partners CAN achieve orgasms at the same time. It may be natural chemistry between both partners, or it may take the willingness and patience to learn what your partner likes, and what makes them orgasm and vice versa.

Along with knowing what stimulates and makes your partner feel good, both partners must maintain good personal hygiene and sexual health. It is critical in the matter. Both partners must be comfortable during sexual encounters for each to achieve an orgasm. A person suffering from a UTI, yeast infection, or STD may not be able to achieve an orgasm due to symptoms or insecurities. Speaking of hygiene, one way to maintain good hygiene is to always take care of all sex toys. Toys and techniques go hand in hand with healthy sexual appetites and orgasms. If your partner is a woman who climaxes off clitoris stimulation, a toy that focuses on stimulating her clitoris, while her partner penetrates her or stimulates another part of her body will aid in a strong climax. Vice versa, if a male enjoys prostate stimulation, using a butt plug or another toy of his choosing while being stimulated elsewhere will help him achieve a healthy orgasm.

Importance Of Orgasms

Orgasms represent the peak of sexual fulfillment for both men and women. They enhance estrogen production, which increases collagen levels. Consequently, individuals experiencing regular orgasms appear more radiant and have lower stress levels than before climaxing. For men, climaxing reduces the danger of getting prostate cancer. A couple having simultaneous orgasms has a stronger bond and is generally much happier due to reduced stress levels. When having sex with a partner, having a desire to orgasm together is understandable. Experiencing this kind of pleasure together is a bonding experience and can lead to a more harmonious and fulfilling sex life. However, sex is a four-part cycle consisting of excitement, plateau, orgasming and resolution. Lining up your orgasms is certainly easier said than done!

Benefits to climaxing together

Aside from the intensity and enjoyment of climaxing with your partner, there are scientifically proven studies that state when a person climaxes, they release a certain chemical, oxytocin. Oxytocin is believed to invoke a connection between partners. Your brain also releases a chemical called dopamine, which sends signals throughout the body forming feelings of desire. Both partners releasing these chemicals at the same time is going to create a very distinct, desired connection between the two.

An orgasm is a glorious thing and not only feels good but has added health benefits, such as increase brain function, boosts immune system, etc. What is better than one orgasm? Two! You and your partner creating an emotional and mental bond, experiencing pleasure together, and making each other healthier in the process.

Some couples bring a third person into their mix to have that assured orgasm together. While it is even more difficult for three people to cum together, that third person certainly ups the odds that the main couple can climax together. Just share with your third wheel the purpose or goal before hand.

How To Experience Shared Sexual Climaxes with One’s Partner

Several couples struggle with getting simultaneous orgasms together. There is a general notion that men tend to orgasm faster than women making it difficult for a couple to achieve satisfaction at the same time. This article provides easy ways to spice up a couple’s sexual experience and help them to share orgasms. Once again, communication is key to you and your partner knowing what works for both of you and moves you both towards climax simultaneously.

What Are the Steps to Achieving Simultaneous Orgasms?

When seeking to orgasm together, there are several ways you can improve your chances. Here are eight tips for achieving simultaneous orgasm:

1. Enjoy The Sex

When having sex with one’s partner, it is important not to stress yourself out about orgasming. While very fulfilling, simultaneous orgasms should not be one’s main priority. Queer sex educator, Gabrielle Kassel recommends masturbation as a way to understand your own sexual desires and what feel good on your body. Mutual masturbation (simultaneously masturbating in view of each other) between partners is also a way to learn about each other while still ensuring both your pleasure. Remember, this is not a place or time for shame – embrace what feels good to you.

2. Explore Each Other As Partners & Find Out What Feels Good

For intense pleasure, partners should not be shy about expressing what works or does not work for them. They should be attentive to each other’s needs and reactions. Consequently, couples who do not communicate what stimulates them often do not achieve synced orgasms. Each partner should be willing to try new things that the other finds pleasurable. If you know what makes you tick, tell your partner! Sex is a chance to bond and learn about each other and your bodies. Tell each other what feels good in the moment and out of it. Nonverbal communication such as eye contact is also a powerful tool to keep you connected, communicating, and having a good time during sex. Sharing simultaneous orgasms together is all about the sexual experience your partner is having just as much as it is about yours. Take sometime and figure out what you both enjoy in bed. You might even find that you get turned on when you focus on your partner, which can help take off some of the pressure and help you climax at the same time.

3. Find A Rhythm

Communication while having intercourse should help partners establish their rhythm. One should know when to slow down, switch positions, stimulate the clitoris (how fast and how much pressure) and any other things the partner enjoys during sex. Once a couple finds this common ground, they are one step closer to orgasming together. As you get to know what your partner likes and doesn’t like sexually, you will naturally find ways to better sync with them. Take turns pleasing and stimulating each other. However, if you find you are about to climax before your partner, slow yourself down and wait for them. This is actually way easier to do together than having a quick orgasm. During sex, listen to the breathing patterns of your partner, which are often signs of sexual climax.

4. Lubricate And Stimulate the Clitoris

Dryness is a barrier to orgasm. Pain and friction are also unlikely to help you reach that golden orgasm. So, keep things moving with lube! Women often take longer to orgasm than men. According to OBGYN, Dr. Tanya Tantry, It typically takes female persons fifteen minutes longer to climax than men. Focus on slow stimulation with the understanding you may need to focus on the pussy with some lead up time and you both may spend more time to reach her climax. For a man/woman relationship, men should focus on pleasuring the woman’s focal sexual organ (G-Spot), the clitoris. Men who climax faster than their partners should patiently stimulate the woman’s clitoris with lubricant to keep everything wet and pleasurable. Foreplay is crucial to orgasm at the same time with one’s partner. This is true whether a hetero or homosexual couple. It may be easier to climax simultaneously as a homosexual couple due to an understanding of the equipment, but that understanding can be learned and communicated. Using lubricant can help increase sexual stimulation in women and help them climax faster. You can use lubrication to concentrate exclusively on the clit. You can also use lube before you have vaginal sex to help stimulate the inside of your woman’s pussy, using a vibrator or your fingers, and the outside of her clit, making it even easier for her to orgasm during sexual intercourse.

5. Take the focus off penetration

Especially if you already know that penetrative sex is not the best source of cumming together for you and your partner, don’t feel obligated to always include it or make it a goal in your sex. Sex Guru Carly S has a list of other sex acts that are non-penetrative, such as: cunnilingus, analingus, felacio, manual stimulation, kissing, humping, grinding, groping. We find the easiest way to cum together is through oral sex. The timing and communication during sex is a tad more intuitive and there really isn’t anything better than cumming in each other’s mouths at the same time.

6. Focus even more on the pussy

Let’s talk about that pussy. The clitoris is important. It is not always stimulated by penetrative intercourse and sometimes your female partner may have trouble cumming during just pounding it out. The majority of female orgasms involve clitoral stimulation. When having sex with someone with a clitoris, ensure that you’re both taking time and care to find what feels good on their clitoris and keep it stimulated throughout sex so they can achieve that orgasm. The clit is the one of the main body organs in a woman that’s there to provide pleasure. We like to get that pussy close to orgasm before cumming together, but even more preferable can be making the pussy cum prior to the double orgasm of you both. Put a lot of focus on the pussy and clit until the sensitivity is maxed out – that can lead to orgasm together that is mind blowing for her. Concentrating on the clit should lead you both to the promised land with more success.

7. Try different tools and toys

If you know that a toy would help stimulate an area that brings you orgasm, use one! Toys exist for all body types and while some may bring you to orgasm quicker, some will slow the process down, such as cock rings, allowing both partners greater control over when the finish.

8. Take the focus off the orgasm

Yes, really. Overthinking it is detrimental to the process and to your pleasure. Take the focus off of the orgasm, and center pleasure in your sex. Orgasm may be desirable, but it won’t come from having bad sex or being stressed about it. If you do end up orgasming separately, try to keep going until both partners have finished to maintain your connection. Following these tips is not a guaranteed simultaneous orgasm, but they do guarantee fun. Remember, some people have a harder time than others achieving orgasm with a partner at all. But as long as your time together is focused on pleasure and care for each other, sex with a partner can be a rewarding and fun experience regardless of orgasm. Climaxing together can be a gratifying experience for both you and your sexual partner. Sharing simultaneous orgasms will improve your sex, relationship and communication. And, that’s a good thing. Tell your partner what you want, like, what turns you on, what feels good. Focusing on sexual hot spots and enjoy the moment and you’ll have a fantastic experience.

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